When it comes to conveying your sympathy, finding the right words can be difficult. While you may mean well, what you end up writing may miss the mark, come off as formulaic or simply feel a little impersonal.
We’ve taken it upon ourselves to compile some of the best messages to use when it comes to writing a sympathy card. Of course, you put your own unique spin on these, all we’re trying to do is help you get an idea of what to write.
Tips For Writing A Sympathy Card
Before you start writing your sympathy message, follow these pointers:
- Pick a card that matches the personality of the person receiving it.
- Try to keep it as simple as possible.
- A letter can be a great alternative if you have a lot to say and it has a personalised touch.
- Be brave and open to sharing a memory of the person that has passed.
- You can use a standard messaging formula as listed about to get your inner writer inspired.
- Be mindful of different cultures and religions that may be at play.
- Don’t make assumptions about the person’s life.
- Be yourself. The person receiving the card knows you and all your quirks. Sending something generic will be blatantly obvious.
- Try not to overthink it.
- If you buy a store-bought card with a message already in it, try to personalise it with a sort message.
- Offer support, try to be specific when it comes to this.
- Try to be sensitive and aware of the other person’s emotions during this time.
- Be mindful that all deaths are different and as such people experience it differently.
- Write a rough draft to work out the kinks before committing to a card.
- Don’t expect them to reply to your letter, or at least don’t expect an immediate response.
Short And Sweet Sympathy Messages
While a long flowery message may seem best, keeping it short and simple often says so much more. These messages are appropriate for anyone who has lost someone dear to them, whether in your family, a colleague or friend:
- Heartfelt condolences on your loss.
- We hope that you’re surrounded by love. You are in our thoughts.
- Wishing you peace during this difficult time.
- Sorry for your loss.
- Sending you comforting hugs and healing prayers.
- Our deepest sympathy.
- I hope that you’re doing okay. You’re in our thoughts.
- It was a pleasure knowing Jane, she will be missed.
- You and your family are in our thoughts.
- I hope that you find comfort.
- Jane will be in our hearts.
- We’re all remembering Jane and honouring her memory.
- Sending prayers and thoughts to you and your family.
- Sending you best wishes and hugs.
If the person you are sending the card to is close to you, you may want to add a touch of sentimentality, especially if you knew the deceased. Sentimental messages often add extra comfort when people are experiencing a loss:
- You and your family are in our thoughts. Jane will be in our hearts.
- This card is here to let you know that I am here for you. So sorry for your loss.
- I believe that we never truly lose someone, their memory lives on through us. All the time spent with them makes them a part of who we are.
- I know that words aren’t able to describe who John was and it also can’t describe the loss we’re feeling.
- You’re in our prayers.
- Life and death are complex. Sometimes navigating it all can be easier when done with a friend. I’m here for you.
- You and your family are in our thoughts. Sending you comforting hugs and healing prayers.
- I can’t begin to imagine how you feel. I’m so sorry for your loss. Let me know if you need anything.
- Sending you peace and courage to make it through the next few days and weeks. John will forever be in our hearts.
- Standing beside you during this difficult time. I hope that you experience acceptance and comfort.
- Sending you love to fill the emptiness you’re feeling. I’m so sorry for your loss. Let me know if you need anything.
- I am sorry you are facing this treacherous storm. I can’t begin to imagine how you feel. Let me know if you need anything.
- May the memory of Jane give you comfort during this tough time. Our thoughts are with you.
- I’m so sorry to hear about John. Sending you comforting hugs and healing prayers.
Messages of Appreciation
If you were close to the deceased a message honouring them and the contribution they made to your life is appropriate. These are just a few ideas:
- Jane has led a remarkable life and was such an amazing person. I was lucky to have known her.
- I am so sorry for your loss. Jane was an amazing person and will live on in our hearts.
- I am so sorry that you lost your mother. She was one of the most generous, kind, and loving people that I’ve ever known. Her legacy will live on through you and your family.
- I am sorry to hear about your sister’s passing. I know that you two were close and that she loved you dearly. I will always remember her.
- John touched the lives of many through his generous action. I am grateful for the time that we’ve spent together. I will miss him dearly.
- Jane shared her faith and kindness with so many people. I pray that you find comfort in his memory and the fact that so many people will be missing you too.
- John changed the lives of so many people. I am grateful to have been a part of his life. I will always cherish his memory.
- Let’s celebrate the life of an amazing person. I am here for you during this time for whatever you may need.
- Jane was a great person a led an amazing life. I am honoured to have known her.
- We will never forget John and the impact he had on everyone he met.
- Remembering Jane and wishing you comfort and love during this time.
- Thinking of Jane and the amazing life she led.
The Thought That Counts
During this difficult time your friend, family member or colleague needs all the support that they can get. Don’t lose sight of who the person is that you’re writing to and the relationship that you have with them. They’re counting on your support and a card with a heartfelt message is a wonderful way to help them cope with their loss.