That moment of uncertainty when you’re trying to put pen to paper is borderline unbearable. Some may even say torture. Your heart races, beads of sweat drip from your brow and more than likely you write a message that’s mediocre or about as generic as it gets.
“Congratulations Steve and Rosie here’s to a lifetime of happiness”. Bleh. You’ve spent ages picking out the perfect wedding present, but now you’re stumped with what to write. You know the bride and groom are going to spend days wading through their gifts and cards, but how do you stand out for all the right reasons? What do you write in a wedding card?
From quirky one-liners to heartfelt wishes, we’ve got just the list for you. Whether they’re close friends or distant relatives, those few words on a wedding card can be tough to string together. Here’s your chance to give Hallmark a run for their money.
Wedding card etiquette
First and foremost, there’s a quintessential etiquette when it comes to wishing the bride and groom. Whether it’s an e-card or a physical letter, it’s customary to send your wedding wishes after you receive the invitation or within weeks of the ceremony. When in doubt, send a card. No matter how fast-paced and modern today’s wedding extravaganzas have become, a personal note is always appreciated.
As for the wedding card itself, play to your strengths. If you have the time (and the skills) to make something yourself, you’re already going to be streaks ahead of your competitors. For many of us, arts and crafts are not our forte, so don’t feel ashamed if you opt for a pretty card from your nearby stationary shop. With the likes of Ojolie and Moonpig, it’s getting easier to wow your loved ones with beautifully designed e-cards. There are plenty of accessible options, so take your pick.
How to craft your message
There are five simple rules to curate the perfect message for your wedding card.
- Congratulate the couple
- Wish them well
- Share a memory
- Thank them
- Sign off
The card should be addressed to both partners, even if you only know one of them personally. If you follow these simple rules, your wedding card etiquette will be on point.
What to write in a wedding card
Let’s get down to the nitty-gritty. What on earth are you actually going to write? Step 2 of crafting the perfect message requires the ultimate one-liner. We’ve got a few options that you can rework to fit your needs.
Funny Wedding Card Messages
Are you looking to make the happy couple laugh? You know them best, so you can judge what’s appropriate for their sense of humour. If in doubt, play it safe. The last thing you want to do is offend them. It’s all about making them chuckle.
- Being married is like any other job; it helps if you like your boss.
- Let the fighting commence! Congratulations married couple.
- Thanks for inviting us to eat and drink while you get married! Congrats
- Getting married is like going to drama school. May there be more comedy than melodrama.
- Finally! (By which I mean congratulations.)
- It’s time to knock back the prosecco and pretend like this hasn’t been the most stressful day of your life.
- Well done on finding that one person who is going to annoy you for the rest of your life.
- Thanks for reminding me how much money I’m going to save by not having a wedding 😉
- In the circus of life, you may have lived like a lion so far. But your wife, the new Circus Master will tame you into a domesticated cat in no time. Good luck with your tight rope act.
- Stay in Love, stay married, stay hopeful, most of all, stay together – divorce is too expensive.
- Our marriage advice: Love, honour and… scrub the toilet
- I now pronounce you husband and wife… you may now update your Facebook status.
- Congrats on your wedding! (you fools)… I wish you the very, very best! (just run)… to many years of happiness! (go now, I won’t tell anyone)
- Marriage. An endless sleepover with your favourite weirdo
Formal Wedding Card Messages
Formal doesn’t have to mean stuffy. There may be tuxedos and floor-length hems, but your wording doesn’t have to be impersonal. You can still hit the right tone without relying on the generic “Congratulations to you both”.
- May your life together be filled with everlasting love, joy and laughter.
- May the love you share today only grow stronger with time.
- Wishing you two a very happy and blessed married life.
- Let love be the focal point of your daily life. May you find hope, peace and faith in each other’s arms.
- May the joy of this new chapter bring you and eternity of love, laughter and understanding.
- May this marriage be a bridge to usher happiness, peace and prosperity.
- May the love and happiness you feel today continue for the rest of your years.
- Thank you for letting us share in your journey. May the love you share today grow stronger as you grow old together.
- May your life together be filled with precious moments.
- You are perfect for each other. I look forward to watching you grow as a couple.
- I’ve been waiting for this moment since you first met, may your lives be blessed with true love every day.
Heartfelt Wedding Card Messages
The best messages come from the heart. If your heart is a bit tongue-tied, use one of these sincere congratulatory wedding messages.
- Congratulations on the beginning of your fairytale
- Cheers to love, laughter and happily ever after
- And so the adventure begins…
- Your wedding day will come and go, but may your love forever grow.
- You are going to write the next chapters of your life stories together and I cannot wait to read it. Happy wedding day to you both!
- Today you start this new journey in your life. Let it be fantastic, crazy, wonderful, unbelievable and unforgettable.
- Congratulations to the newlyweds! You two couldn’t be more perfect for one another.
- May your married life be filled with the right ingredients: faith, trust, passion, romance, understanding and timeless love.
Casual Wedding Card Messages
Are you not wanting to be too formal? Keep it short and sweet with a casual congrats.
- Best wishes!
- Congrats to you both.
- Congratulations on your wedding!
- Wishing you all the best.
- Hugs and kisses to you lovebirds!
- Wishing you the best today and always.
- Happy wedding day!
- Lots of Love for today and everything that’s to come.
- We/I’m so happy for you!
- I love you guys, congrats!
- Here’s to a long and happy marriage.
Religious Wedding Card Messages
If you know the couple is religious, they’ll appreciate the sentiment.
- May God bless you on your union.
- God bless your love for one another.
- May God’s Love guide you through this next chapter.
- May the one who brought you together bless this marriage.
- ‘Love is patient. Love is kind…Love never fails.’ 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Wedding Card Messages from Family
There’s nothing more exciting than gaining a family member at a wedding. Take the personal touch of your wedding note up a notch with some of the one-liners below.
- Welcome to the family, sorry we’re so nuts!
- Today we welcome in another family member. You were our missing piece.
- I love you both and couldn’t be happier for our family!
- What a beautiful day for our family, we’re finally complete.
- Thanks for letting us share in your celebration.
- Welcome to the nuthouse, we’re so happy to have you!
- I’m so happy (name) found the one, we already like you more 😉
- What an excellent addition to our family!
- I couldn’t be happier to be able to call you family.
- We’re delighted to share this day with you both.
Wedding card messages when you can’t attend
Sometimes things come up and you can’t attend the wedding. The right message in a card is the perfect way to give your apologies for not attending.
- With you in spirit as you celebrate your love. Congratulations!
- Wishing you all the happiness in the world as you start your married life together. Sorry we can’t be there to share your special day, but please know we are toasting you from afar.
- So sad to miss your special day. Sending all our love and best wishes
- I can only imagine how beautiful you looked and I honestly wish I would have been there to see you smile.
- Your wedding is important. Don’t let our absence tell you otherwise. We would have loved to have been a part of your special day.
- We are glad we have the rest of your lives to congratulate you on your nuptials.
- We still wish you two the best despite your wedding being over already. We hope the beginning of the rest of your lives has been wonderful.
Wedding card closing
It’s customary to add a short piece just before signing your name. Here are a few options that will end your card on the right note.
- With Love,
- Lots of love to both of you,
- Congrats Newlyweds,
- Take good care of each other,
- Always and forever,
Nail That Wedding Card
If in doubt, remember the simple wedding card do’s and don’ts. Do speak from the heart, handwrite the note and make it personal. Don’t write an entire story, and whatever you do, don’t write the message in a rush. No matter how times change, a word of congratulations and thanks is going to be timeless.
Looking for a present to go with that card? Have a look at our posts on wedding gifts, from tips to find the perfect wedding gift to luxury wedding gift ideas.
- 1 Wedding card etiquette
- 2 How to craft your message
- 3 What to write in a wedding card
- 4 Nail That Wedding Card